THE SECRET TO WHY SOME COUPLES RARELY ARGUE ABOUT THEIR FINANCES
There are few adventures in life more meaningful than falling in love and getting to know your romantic partner. Couples talk deep into the night, go on long walks, dissect their previous relationships, and fill each other in on where they grew up and what they studied in school, while sharing their dreams for the future.
But when, exactly, do you ask your new love about their credit card debt or how they plan to save for retirement?
It might seem trivial, but it’s not. Marriages have floundered on this issue.
Any couple planning to share their lives should make a point of getting to know each other financially, as well as romantically. This process will not only lay the groundwork for milestones like home ownership and having kids, but it has also been shown to diffuse a major source of marital tension.
In fact, research has found a link between financial transparency and happy, successful relationships.
A recent poll conducted by Leger for the Financial Planning Standards Council (FPSC) found that couples that share details about their personal finances argue significantly less about money than those who are less transparent (58 per cent versus 30 per cent).
Of those who share their finances – about 61 per cent of Canadian couples – 82 per cent said they knew about their partner’s finances before making the decision to merge their bank accounts.
Yet, the Leger study found that only about half of Canadians, or 54 per cent, talk to their partners about personal finances, and seven per cent admit to lying to a spouse or partner about money matters. Many younger couples caught up in the rosy glow of planning their nuptials often believe that things will look after themselves after the wedding.
The fact is, they won’t.
As a Certified Financial Planner® professional we recommend that couples engage in some very candid conversations before they get hitched.
Beginning a marriage should be a happy occasion and things will go smoother for couples who get the “money talk” out of the way early.
To start, couples have to figure out the division of labour when it comes to financial matters: who will balance the chequebook, pay the bills and manage accounts?
In some cases, couples may wish to discuss a pre-nuptial agreement, especially where there are significant pre-existing assets or other complex arrangements involved, such as trusts. This is a highly specialized area that should be discussed with both a lawyer and a CFP® professional.
Couples planning to merge their assets should also discuss their debts, and outline their hopes related to children, home ownership, career trajectories and travel.
They should also make a will, secure life insurance and put in place adequate savings mechanisms to cover their future needs.
To ensure couples develop a plan that’s customized to their particular financial situation, and that takes into account all aspects of their changing finances over time, couples should seek the advice and support of a professional financial planner like a CFP® professional. A CFP® possesses the technical competencies required to assess your financial goals from all possible angles while abiding to a code of ethics that ensures your interests come first.
The best time to engage a CFP® professional is before you engage your wedding planner; the second best time is now.
A Certified Financial Planner® professional will get to know you as a couple – your life goals, values, investment plans and financial objectives.
And, like a good marriage, a relationship with a financial planner should be built on trust and a shared vision.
Of course, relationships don’t always work out as planned, and we also work with clients entering